forgive, forget, & move on

Forgive, forget, and move on. It's not always easy and it can take time to accomplish, but any determined person who works at it can get there. The time that this was the most difficult journey for me was when my 3 year old daughter was molested. I didn't think that was something I could ever forgive. It took 5 years, but I finally advanced to the forgive, forget, and move on destination where I longed to be. I didn't even know that I longed to be there until it happened. It didn't happen all at once, but some times you don't notice the change until after it has already happened. It took many nights of being awake thinking instead of sleeping, many long letters, phone calls, and angry arguments, two court cases, a prison sentence, lots of time and many tears, but here I am. Don't get me wrong, some things you never forget. I won't forget what we have been through or that it happened, but the troubles are behind me as the stubbornness and hate were left behind in some forgotten place and time. When the anger and hate are left behind behind, it feels forgotten and makes life beautiful again. I no longer hate him. Of course, I would never seek him out as a friend in the future either. I just feel sorry for him. He has a screwed up life and doesn't know how to really truly live to have a full happy life. He may never know true happiness. It's sad to think of all the people in the world who don't know how to be happy in a healthy, loving, environment.